Guidelines for growing a relationship and developing greater intimacy…

Without regular daily and weekly rituals, life would be chaotic and meaningless…

The following ideas are suggestions to enrich your primary relationship:

-no contentious discussions first thing in the morning before heading to work-work on creating a harmonious space to start the day

-spend 20 minutes checking in after work each day (after changing etc)-discuss anything that arrives..

-eat regular meals around the dinner table, without any screens on (tv/cell phones). Light candles, pick a flower..

-plan a date event alone together once a week-include variety-a walk/a movie/a lecture/a museum/a musical event etc (this creates memories and encourages stimulating conversation)

-make a date/time to discuss conflict. Timing is everything! Sometimes one person wants to argue, the other maybe exhausted…(eliminate the words ‘always’ and ‘never’ from your dialogues together)

-spend at least 1/2 day together as a family every weekend

-get away annually on holiday together and a few weekends too

Keep maintaining this alchemic container-it’s not dissimilar to a garden that needs regular watering…